How do I deal? Well, I wrote a book eight months ago.
My boys are 4 1/2 and 2 1/2. They are VERY active typical boys, who argue mostly over toys. They are both very stubborn, and the younger has learned to hold his own (and he’s a big 2 1/2 year old so he can hold his own well).
It is no doubt that we do the best we can as parents. Are we always doing it right, of course not, but we live and learn.
I’m living and learning through my first children’s book by connecting with great authors. I have worked with a talented illustrator on my book, Sharing Is Love- My brother and me, and I am thankful for that. Rocio taught me a lot as we produced the illustrations together. Here is her website. http://rocioarvea.blogspot.ca/
Has my book ended my boy’s sibling battles..of course not. But they like the book, are amused by the characters looking like them, and I would like to think the message comes across loud and clear. They talk about the lessons in the book after each time we read it together.
This book is simple, to the point, rhyming, and has very colourful and vivid illustrations for kids to enjoy. Rocio and I have already begun discussing my second book; Sharing Is Love- My sister and me.
I wish I had more time to concentrate on the marketing of this book, but I take it day by day, week by week, and do what I can. I don’t consider myself an author, maybe a ‘pretend’ author really. One who makes silly spelling mistakes via email and while blogging. Maybe after I write a few more children’s books I may slightly accept this title.
Oh, and as I was writing this I had to go help my husband out as he shouted from downstairs ‘I need a hand’… so I could stay with my youngest, Oliver, while my husband escorted my oldest, Benjamin, upstairs. Why? Hitting his brother. It was an early bedtime for overtired Benjamin.
Typically we deal with our boys battles by either separating them or often a ‘time-out’, followed by a short chat about the ‘time-out’, then an apology to his brother. The hardest thing for us parents is keeping it calm throughout the process… and I have still not mastered this.
Here is an article I just read with some good tips on dealing with nasty sibling fights among young children. http://goo.gl/hxQaB5
Thank you for taking the time to read my blog!